There is this song I put up on my Fresh Music Fridays playlist a little while back by Martin Garrix and Dua Lipa called, “Scared To Be Lonely.” Today it came up on my playlist on Spotify and as I’m listening to it, I kept hearing a verse that really got me thinking.
Do we need somebody just to feel like we’re alright?
The question seems so clear, right? But it’s not. (Well at least the way I look at it) See, my issue is I believe in companionship, I really do, but there comes a point in time where I feel like I just want to be alone. I surround myself with individuals that love and care about me, but once in a while, the thought crosses my mind that I would feel okay if they were gone.
Being honest with myself, I realized over the years I am a very, very independent person who likes to take care of the people I hold close by. Feeling needed and appreciated when I do things for people is what makes me feel alright. I believe I would become genuinely sad if I didn’t have anyone around me to take care of because though I enjoy being alone and focusing on me, I still like to embrace the feeling of being wanted. So I guess, to me yes, I do evidently need somebody just to feel alright.
But that then leads me to the question, is that okay? Because truthfully I don’t really know if having somebody just to feel alright is necessarily a good thing or a bad thing. But I am sure in stating to you that I do believe having somebody or anybody for that matter in your life that gives meaning to yours is invaluable for your personal growth. So either way, I feel like life for me is better when I have somebody to share it with…at least until you truly decide to be alone is your alright.